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Lifehack: Confidence and Risk-Taking

Whatever the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve.

-Napoleon Hill


Whether you’re building your network or pitching a product or angling for a raise or launching your own business, there is one thing you will inescapably have to face: risk. Whether the risk is social ridicule, failure of a product, the inability to repay a loan or loss of credibility, the prospect of failure can be a terrifying one for many people. That’s understandable. Failure affects not only our own lives, but the people around us. If your belief in yourself is low to begin with, you might not be able to cope with the impact of failure well enough to try again.

Unfortunately, failure is also how we learn. The people who’ve succeeded the most are generally speaking also the people who have failed the most. Except for one thing: they don’t call it failure. It’s simply experimental data that needs to be adjusted for. That’s the difference between a setback and a defeat.

What’s the one key to defeat-proofing yourself? For that, you need an almost ridiculous reservoir of confidence and optimism.

Resilience Tip: Dare to Believe in Yourself

Isn’t “believing in yourself” it just plain arrogance?  Doesn’t it make you sick when you see someone who is so arrogant and self-assured that he or she won’t listen to anyone?
Sure it does, but there’s a huge difference between healthy self-confidence and the arrogance of the ego.  The arrogant believe in their egos.  Those with a healthy belief in themselves believe in a power greater than themselves.  The arrogant flaunt their opinions, talents and accomplishments.  The wise do something far different…
The wise first empty themselves out to make room for this Greater Power.  They allow themselves to become painfully aware of all their failings and mistakes.  They put aside all their own opinions.  Then they become what the great Sioux medicine man, Frank Fools Crow, called “little hollow bones” – they wait for the Greater Power to enter them, fill them, guide them and make the right path obvious. 
This is why the wise appear to have extraordinary self-confidence without a trace of arrogance.  To watch them, you would say they’re actually humble in their self-confidence.
The arrogant can’t do this, because this Greater Power cannot teach the know-it-all, guide the egotist or perfect the one who thinks himself already perfect. 
When this greater power finds an empty vessel, though, it speedily rushes in.  And then miracles ensue…
Do as the wise do, and you will never lack confidence again.
~ Dr. Symeon Rodger

Fitness and the Fallacy of Overtraining

Hi all,

I’ve spent a good deal of effort emphasizing the fact that you need to maintain a baseline level of physical fitness if you want to enjoy:

– Superior health (since health depends partly on fitness)
– Peak performance (since energy level and focus depend on it to)
– Self-confidence (since fitness goes a long way towards providing that)

As you know from experience, everybody’s stiff and sore after starting a new exercise program or even a single new exercise. I know, for example, that if I go a week without doing any squats, I’ll pay for it when I start up again.

Then there are the inevitable minor aches and pains of training. Yes, they’re inevitable and no, they’re not going to go away. On the other hand, they’re a testimony to the fact you’re actually doing something!

Unfortunately, though, the first thing that seems to pass through our minds when we feel a twinge here or an ache there is, “Oh, I must be over-training. I should take a few days off!”

Indeed, the myth of overtraining has been so drilled into us that it’s become part of our mentality. Why’s it a myth? Only because most of the people who think they’re overtraining are NOWHERE NEAR overtraining and probably haven’t overtrained a single day in the last twenty years.

Now don’t get me wrong; real overtraining DOES exist. You’ll find it among professional body builders, for example, who have actually damaged their muscles and created large amounts of scar tissue in the process. You’ll find distance runners who have damaged knees and shins through repetitively pounding the pavement. But all this is much different from the minor aches and pains of ordinary training.

You see, the vast majority of people UNDER-TRAIN. They may only do 2 or 3 days a week, they don’t push themselves or they’re none too regular about what they do.

If you want your fitness program to give you the results I mentioned above – superior health, peak performance and enhanced self-confidence – then you absolutely need to train seriously at least 3 times a week and do a lighter workout at least twice a week. Anything less won’t get you anywhere. In a future article I’ll talk more about WHY this is. For now, though, I’ll simply ask you to trust me on this one.

Remember that, if you’re serious about becoming a more RESILIENT person, you need to train the BIG 3 – strength, flexibility and endurance – in a balanced way. This means thinking of overall health and fitness as you train, and not just focusing on your immediate goal of toning your derriere, building your biceps or running the 10K in X number of minutes.

Of course, if you have any kind of pre-existing injury or medical condition, you need to take that into account. But if not, your fears of “overtraining” are probably unfounded. And when you stop undertraining, you’ll discover a whole new level of fitness (and therefore health, performance and confidence) that can be yours.

~ Dr. Symeon Rodger